For a long time now I've been wanting to simplify my life, but I wasn't sure exactly what that meant. Did it mean that I needed to quit working, quit writing, quit shopping, quit doing anything I didn't want to do? The answer seemed kind of elusive in a way, because quitting anything for me usually means filling that void with something else.
I've decided that maybe simplicity really isn't the word I was looking for, even though I love that it can mean lack of pretense or guile and uncomplicated. Maybe the words I needed to add to my vocabulary were calm, wellness, authenticity, and peace...these somehow seem more descriptive and more direct than the generality of simplicity.
I have never been one to pretend to be something I am not, and I have not tried to keep up with the Joneses...because let me tell you folks, I know some pretty amazing Joneses! But I have grown weary of looking at beautiful homes online, and feeling somewhat let down by aspects of my own home. Which is silly really because I too live in a beautiful home, filled with beautiful things, and that's not bragging, that's just realizing how truly lucky you are!
I realized recently that as I was waiting for my new sunroom, my new backsplash, my new master bathroom, my new amazing gardens, I was doing just that...I was "waiting" to live! Of course I have been living, but I haven't been living fully, nope, I've been in a sort of holding pattern.
So, I have pledged that from now on...
...I will no longer wait to have friends over until my house is perfect...I, nor my house will ever be perfect, but having friends over is always perfect!
...I will no longer put anything in my house that isn't truly me, no matter what the trends, or who says I should, and though I have rarely put things in my house I don't love, I have on occasion been taken over by the trend demons! Henceforth, I will promise to be true to me, because this is MY house. (though I promise to defer to Mr. Tide because technically this is his house too...just don't tell him please!)
...I will share my home with others (see pledge #1), because what is the point in having a wonderful home if you don't share it?!...then it is just a prison, or maybe a lovely museum.
...I will no longer feel the need to apologize for or focus on the negatives of this home. We all have negatives in our homes, but that should always take a backseat to the fact that we HAVE a home!
...I will use my home as a safe haven, a place where I get to cook, read, sleep, and wander around in my pjs however the heck I want...this is my castle and by golly I'm gonna call the shots.
Each day I stop and tell myself how grateful I am for so many things, and yet somehow over the past few years I have slowly let myself get swept up into a world where nothing is real, and everything is done for people who are peering in from the outside. I am thankful that I have only stepped a few feet into this world, but there are days when I've felt as though something was wrong with me if I didn't like a certain type of decor, or wanted to DIY the hell out of everything in my house...it resulted in a little bit of design multiple personality disorder, something I've never known and never want to take hold.
So, in closing, because I'm not even sure what to say from here, because let's face it, I AM part of the machine that makes us all so crazy and want to rip out perfectly good kitchens to replace them with perfectly "better" kitchens.. I am throwing back the curtain and revealing that wizards aren't all they claim to be. I'm offering you a hand to get off the Merry Mixer, to get your wits about you, and to stop beating yourselves up because you and your home aren't everything "they" say it should be.
Wanna know how to get back to YOUR home? Just click your heels 3 times and say "there's no place like home, there's no place like MY home." You see, you've known it all along and if you ever doubt it, just remember what Dorothy learned about home...